Anger is an emotion of self-protection. It may involve an effort to prevent injury or specify a boundary. It is also a common response to having been threatened, hurt, or scared, or to the person who caused it. Anger can escalate to rage when the threat is extreme or when assertions of “Don’t!” or “Stop!” are not respected.
– Clarissa Pinkola Estés, Women Who Run with the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype (Emotions and Trauma: Anger and Rage).**
Lately, I have been feeling anger or angry in certain situations. Let I say I find anger to be a healthy emotion because it has a deeper side to it or one worth looking into. As the above quote suggests, it is about self-protection as I feel threatened or someone has backed me into a corner. However, you are only backed into a corner if you allow someone or something to push you there. We are our own enemies sometimes. Not by choice but because we don’t have the equipment to understand what we are going through.
Anger is healthy. It is a very deep seeded emotion which is triggered by outside sources. The man in the grocery store pushes in front of you and you feel rage. The man becomes the trigger point to your rage of having your boundaries violated.
Most of us don’t want to share our anger, we stifle it as if our anger is dirty. It is not. Use your anger in a positive way. Channel your anger/rage into looking for the source of it.
Drawing your anger can be very therapeutic as well. When running my bereavement groups, I would have the participants take crayons and paper to draw their anger. Some would draw so hard with the crayon it would break. Such a beautiful thing.
Don’t be afraid of your anger and don’t let it control you, use it in the way you need to, to bring yourself to a place of peace and calm.
**You can find the full article in the below link:
moments of revelation by sharon 