Have you ever totally botched something and then tried to make it right by fixing it? I’m sure we all have.
Recently, I had the opportunity to botch something then I set out to fix it! In trying to fix it, I actually made it worse. I was trying too hard to make amends. Instead of taking time to reflect over the situation, I seemed to go full steam ahead with what I thought was a perfect solution. However, no one else felt that way, it was not the direction the others would have gone in and I was told quite abruptly that what I was intending was not needed! The person in charge would take care of it. Wow!
In our minds we are thinking we are making things right but in fact we make things worse. When will we learn to leave things alone? And let it be?
We are overcompensating for the underlying problem. We are taking excessive measures in an attempt to correct or make amends with the person or things of which we have botched!
Sometimes it is a weakness or problem which we are overcompensating for. We might over compensate for our fear of water or fear of the future. We over compensate for being short by becoming a clown. You are overcompensating for something you see as being a deficit. But it’s not.
The things we put in our heads about ourselves and others are just false truths and we overcompensate for them. The advise I give myself when I seem to be in my fix it mode is to stop and reflect. I ask myself the following questions: What are your doing? Why are you doing it? Is it your need or their need? Are you overcompensating for something?
Reflection on oneself and our actions is a good start to overcompensating. What are my inadequacies?
moments of revelation by sharon 